5 Ways To Be A Better Mom This New Year

5 Ways To Be A Better Mom This New Year

5 Ways To Be A Better Mom This New Year

Cheers to another New Year of motherhood! Motherhood is hard. If you follow my blog, then you know that I am very open about my struggle as a mom, and have even referred to my son as a monster (here). That being said, it is also the most awesome job on the planet. I spent so many years trying to figure out what I was passionate about and how I could make an impact on this world; and then I had my son. The first time I held Hudson, I realized the immense amount of pressure that came with being a mother. It is my responsibility to raise this little baby. It is my job to ensure that this teeny human grows up to be the kind of man I will be proud of. As someone who sometimes feels like I don’t even have my own life together, I feared that I would fail trying to raise someone else.

I am not a failure.

In the last year, I have learned to ignore the voices in my head telling me I can’t do it. I defend my decisions as a mother instead of questioning them. I refuse to give in to negative thoughts and opinions. I am a good mother.

As a new year begins, I’ve spent a lot of time thinking about how I can be a better mother. What little steps can I take that will make a big difference in Hudson’s life? How can I better myself in ways that will impact my family in a positive way? How can I be the best version of myself this year? I recently wrote a post about creating your own happiness and I think that is a great place to start for moms who need a little boost this year! I’ve also created this list of ways that I plan on becoming a better mother in 2017!

  1. Be More Present: We are busy. We have cell phones and social media and televisions and i-pads and every thing at our fingertips in todays society. It’s easy to be there but not be present. I am so ashamed by the amount of time I spend doing other things in front of Hudson. This year, I want to put my phone away and be present. I want to roll around on the floor with my son instead of taking pictures of him playing on the floor. Moms, let’s be present.
  2. Focus On Me: No, this doesn’t mean take myself shopping once a month. It means giving myself 15 minutes a day to think about my goals. I have been using this Daily Greatness Journal to help me keep track of my thoughts and goals regarding parenting. It reminds me daily that taking care of myself is just as important as taking care of my family. It’s so crucial to have time for yourself for reflection and meditation.
  3. Set Goals: I’m not a spreadsheet girl. I take things as they come and more often than not, I regret not having better planner. That’s why this year one of my goals is to get organized and set goals! I even bought a planner (that’s a big deal. I don’t know how to use it)! So this year, i’m going to think ahead, plan ahead, and be more successful because I want Hudson to see me as strong and motivated, not as last minute and unprepared!
  4. Find Alternatives For No: The older Hudson gets, the more he’s learning how to push my buttons. All of them. I need to take a step back and breathe sometimes. I want to be slow to anger with my son (and my husband) and that means letting go of the reigns a bit and realising that ya know what, he’s a toddler and he’s going to do annoying things like throw your keys in the toilet. I don’t want him to remember me as an angry mother. I want him to remember me as patient and loving. That being said, I want to focus on saying, hey, lets try throwing mummy’s keys in her purse instead of the toilet rather than saying, NO!
  5. Laugh More: As moms we put so much pressure on ourselves to be perfect that we forget that we only get to live this life once. Don’t put so much pressure on yourself. Do the best you can and do it with a smile. When life hands you lemons, truck on and smile. Don’t look back on these years as the “hard years” like we so often hear our parents say, look back at them as the fun years!

I hope you leave today inspired to carry on being the amazing mother i’m sure you already are. Let’s not forget, our kids think we are super heroes even on our WORST days. That’s the best part about being a mom; the unconditional love that comes with the job title.

Happy New Year!

Always,

Alexie

Written by

16 Comments

Hi, I'm Alexie Flook

I am a twenty-something year old world-traveler, turned stay at home mom! I live in Maryland with my 2 year old son, one month old daughter, beautiful British husband, and neurotic boxer dog! This space is filled with honest reviews, personal musings, and my successes and failures as a natural homeopathic mother and wif

Get the latest news, blog posts, and giveaway information directly to your inbox so you don't miss anything!

  • Those moments when your toddler comes over and asks you for a cuddle and falls asleep in your arms. They are so few and far between and I swear there is nothing sweeter. In the midst of the terrible twos, his peaceful slumber is always the reminder I need that he's still my baby.
•
•
•
•
•
•
•
•
•
#momtogs #momentsofmine #momentslikethese #afternoonnap #candidslumber #childhoodunplugged #momswithcameras #motherhoodrising #honestmotherhood #darlingweekend #minimalist #childofig
  • She is all that and a bag of chips 👌🏼 I wrapped all the Christmas presents this morning and sat back a bit disappointed because to be honest, there wasn't much there. It's so easy to get caught up in the holidays and the spending and the concept that we always need MORE when in reality we already have what we need. I have a husband who loves me (most of the time) and two happy healthy kids who think I'm the bomb.com. Hudson will be so excited when he opens his few presents that it won't even occur to him that there "should" be more! Christmas isn't about the gifts and the gluttony guys, it's about family and he birth of the most amazing baby ever. Don't get sucked into all the expected sponsored posts of what your kids NEED or SHOULD HAVE to be happy. They have you. They have their health. Just have a Merry Christmas and be happy for what you already have 🎁
•
•
•
•
•
•
•
•
•
#momswithcameras #bestofmom #momtogs #motherhoodunplugged #perfectbabies #justbaby #thehappynow #our_everyday_moments #documentyourdays #acupofmotherhood #childofig #pixel_kids #minimalism #minimalist #christmastime #uniteinmotherhood #honestmotherhood #momlife #livehappy #petitejoys
  • Milk. Naps. Oils. Any other oily mama's out there? Let's connect because I love learning all the mama oily hacks! My personal favorite at the moment is a few drops of gentle baby in some coconut oil for the most luxurious and sleep inducing baby massage! ❤️ This onesie is from my dear friend Jenny over at @theoilyshop! Use code ALEXIE to get 10% off any purchase! Support a fellow mompreneur!
•
•
•
•
•
•
•
•
•
#candidchildhood #dockatot #theoilyshop #oilymama #whatsinmyer #livethelittlethings #pixel_kids #momswithcameras #momsofinstagram #childofig #childhoodunplugged #morningscenes #thatsdarling #petitejoys #pursuepretty #abmlifeisbeautiful #perfectbabies #fourmonthsold #our_everyday_moments #momentsofmine #minimalist #healthylife
  • Dollar Days at the Baltimore Aquarium because ain't nobody got time for $65/person on a normal day! Hudson absolutely LOVED it and Presley seemed in total awe of the bright colors and movement! All around a successful day with only a few meltdowns and lots of cuddles from grandma and pap pap to get us through! I'm enjoying a peaceful and SILENT drive home now! Ahhhhhhhh...😴
•
•
•
•
•
•
•
•
•
#bestofmom #momtogs #baltimore #baltimoreaquarium #innerharbor #nationalaquarium #marylandpride #pixel_kids #motherhoodunplugged #acupofmotherhood #oureverydaymoments #pursuepretty #petitejoys #momlife #momblog #honestmotherhood #childofig #candidchildhood #momswithcameras
  • My little elf girl is four months old today. *cue alllll the tears* I feel like four months is when we're officially out of the teeny baby stage...although she has been in 6-9 month sleepers since she was like two months sooooo...anywho. This morning Hudson didn't wake up until TEN so me and this girl got to hangout in bed and drink HOT coffee and get some work done (which never happens anymore). She's the smiliest, calmest baby I've ever met. Literally I can count the amount of times that she's like scream cried on two hands and most of those were because she hates being in her car seat. She loves cuddles and her big brother the most and still nurses like a champion. She thinks Sonny is like the funniest thing ever and EVERYTHING (seriously everything) goes in her mouth. I always thought I'd be a boy mom but I'll tell you what, I'm loving being this girls mom. And so the four of us will continue to learn together as a family and grow stronger and love harder and now I have to go make a cake because I told Hudson it was Presley's four month birthday and he got a little too excited. HAPPY FOUR MONTHS P GIRL! 😂
•
•
•
•
•
•
•
•
•
#thehappynow #momtogs #fourmonthsold #morningscenes #morningslikethese #bestofmom #pursuepretty #petitejoys #pixel_kids #candidchildhood #motherhoodunplugged #thehappynow #documentyourdays #abmlifeisbeautiful #momswithcameras #beatifulbabies
  • Advent calendars, Christmas jammies, dance parties to our favorite Christmas songs, and a half decorated tree because I have about the same attention span as my two year old. Yes friends, Christmas is here and there is nothing more fun than when the "magic" becomes real in your house again. Merry Christmas friends! What is one tradition that your family does every year?? We need to start making a few of our own and I'd love your ideas!!
•
•
•
•
•
•
•
•
•
#pixel_kids #momswithcameras #magicofchildhood #motherhoodunplugged #childhoodunplugged #candidchildhood #morningscenes #momentsofmine #morningslikethese #thatsdarling #childofig #christmasspirit #pajamaparty #christmastime #merrychristmas #littlestoriesofmylife
  • In a house filled with so much mess and chaos, it's these few and far between moments of peace that keep me going. Like the real moments of SILENCE where you get to sit back and reflect. As moms we so rarely get any peace and routine becomes a necessity for sanity even though so many of us crave to get away and get out of that routine. I can't tell you that I've found a balance because I certainly have not, but I can tell you that the days when both my kids sleep at the same time or when Hudson sleeps at all, and I get to recharge my batteries...those are my favorite days. We all need those days. Also, I took a shower and washed my hair for the first time in like a week yesterday so I'm on a roll right now. Anybody else know exactly what I'm talking about???
•
•
•
•
•
•
•
•
•
#momtogs #liveauthentic #motherhoodunplugged #momswithcameras #thehappynow #morningscenes #morningslikethese #verilymoment #thatsdarling #documentyourdays #abmlifeisbeautiful #bestofmom #uniteinmotherhood #candidchildhood #acupofmotherhood #igkiddies #childofig #pixel_kids #breastisbest #breastfeeding
  • My sweet little Peewee, there is definitely not a baby as sweet as you out there. Guys, she is just the epitome of sweet and I cannot get enough of her. Literally everyone who meets her is amazed by her calm demeanor and want for nothing but a cuddle. She is truly the most perfect addition to our family and We are so thankful for her every day 😍What makes your babies special??
•
•
•
•
•
•
•
•
•
#bestofmom #motherhoodunplugged #momswithcameras #uniteinmotherhood #momtogs #our_everyday_moments #documentyourdays #pixel_kids #honestmotherhood #petitejoys #morningscenes #pursuepretty #littlestoriesofmylife #thatsdarling #darlingweekend
  • Hudson's new favorite song is Feliz Navidad and take my word for it, there is nothing cuter than listening to him sing it. Literally. NOTHING. Also we got our Christmas tree today so let the festivities begin.
•
•
•
•
•
•
•
•
•
#momtogs #momswithcameras #childhoodunplugged #candidchildhood #thehappynow #pixel_kids #letthekids #letthembelittle #childhoodmemories #momentsofchildhood #documentyourdays #our_everyday_moments #petitejoys #littlestoriesofmylife #bestofmom #honestmotherhood
TOTS100 - UK Parent Blogs
TOTS100
x Close

Like Us On Facebook