Sleeping Through The Night With The Cradle Coach

Sleeping Through The Night With The Cradle Coach

Sleeping Through The Night With The Cradle Coach

Sleep training has so many negative connotations associated with it, and before I started my journey, it is not something I had considered as an option for my family. A few weeks ago I posted this post about the lack of sleep in our house and how it was affecting every element of my life. Literally my marriage, my emotional state and my ability to be a mom were all compromised because none of us were getting any sleep. Just ten days ago, Hudson was waking up every hour to breastfeed and was sleeping in our bed. Tonight, he will sleep through the night in his own bed. TEN DAYS. That’s all it took to change my life.

I know that probably sounds dramatic, but to those of us who have children who really suffer with sleeping, it isn’t dramatic at all. I feel healthier, I feel happier, I feel like I can take care of Hudson better during the day because I have more energy; life is good.

Before I go into too much detail, let me just remind you that I am 100% pro co-sleeping and would still be co-sleeping if Hudson would have actually slept. We co-slept for a year and I don’t regret it for even a second. Unfortunately our circumstances demanded that we make a change, and as hard as that was, I do not regret it!

A lot of my instagram followers have been asking me about The Cradle Coach and the role they played in our journey to a full nights sleep and my response is; I never could have done it without their knowledge and support. I think when it comes to ‘sleep training,’ you need someone on your side. You need someone who knows what to expect and what to say when the going gets tough. You also need someone who understands your baby, your family, and your combined needs. The women at the cradle coach do exactly that.

Like I said in my previous post, when you do a consultation with them, they send you a sleep plan tailored to your baby based on age, temperament, etc. This is important because as i’m sure you’ve heard said a 1,000 times, all babies are different! Hudson is a particularly strong willed baby, and we didn’t want to do the cry it out method so she sent us three alternative methods to choose from. Now, I know all of you are looking for a magic sleep solution that doesn’t involve crying and I am here to tell you that a solution like that does not exist. However, you don’t have to walk out of the room and shut the door to achieve results.

Adam and I sat by Hudsons bed for ten nights until he fell asleep. He knew we were there, he could see us, and for the first four nights I even held his hand until he fell asleep. That being said, it was the hardest four nights of my life. When I spoke to Janelle, my consultant, on night four, I wanted to quit. I didn’t realise how hard it was going to be. I didn’t know how hard it would be for me to sleep without him in my bed. It broke my heart watching him cry. I cried with him some of the time. Sleep training isn’t just training the baby, it’a about training yourself as well. What I realised though was that he was safe; He wasn’t in pain, He knew we were there. He was fine. He was just out of his routine and that must be scary for a baby. For a year of his life he relied on breastfeeding to fall asleep and then all of a sudden he was put somewhere away from me and had to teach himself to fall asleep.

By night six, he really understood what was going on. When I put him in the cot he got a little fussy and then laid down and fell right to sleep. He woke up about two times a night until night nine when he slept through the night for the first time in his life and now I don’t dread bed time. In fact, I love bedtime. Wow, I never thought I would say that.IMG_20160829_115139

The best part about The Cradle Coach was that when I texted them in the middle of the night saying, ” I can’t do this,” they immediately responded telling me I could, along with ten reasons why it was the right thing to do. Plus they never made me do anything I didn’t want to do. I still breastfed Hudson at night for the first few nights because I wasn’t going to just cut him off. They tailored my plan so that I could do that and still be successful. On top of that, they encouraged me to cuddle with him extra during the day and we still co-sleep at naps sometimes. They really do work around your lifestyle. If for no other reason, that is why I recommend them.

I spent the last ten days teaching my son how to fall asleep on his own and I am so proud of him and so happy for all of us. Now, when morning comes, I am excited to see him, not frustrated because i’m exhausted. Now, I have HOURS of alone time with my husband instead of minutes. Now, I can go to dinner with my friends without having to worry about being home in case he wakes up.

I have asked Janelle at The Cradle Coach to give a few general tips to help your baby sleep and hopefully these can help your family:

  • Find a routine and schedule that works and stick with it! Babies thrive on routine and consistency.
  • Always put baby down awake or drowsy. This will help them learn the skill of self-soothing and will help avoid sleep associations.
  • Find a sleep training method that works for you, your child’s personality, and one that you are comfortable with. Consistency is key!
  • Plenty of playtime and sunlight during the day
  • Healthy bedtime is 6:30 – 7:30pm for most children. Healthy sleep is 10-12 hours
  • Create an environment that is conducive for sleep. We recommend black out curtains, a sound machine on throughout the night, and the room kept at cool temperature (68-72 is ideal)
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If you are in the same situation as me and not sure if sleep training is the right avenue for your family or afraid of letting your baby cry it out like me, please reach out to these ladies and voice your concerns. They are so smart and have worked with so many families and I trust them to help you like they’ve helped me. As usual, feel free to contact me if you want to know more about my experience!

Mamas, please don’t forget the importance of your mental health post-partum. Sleeping plays such an important role in your health and if you are feeling exhausted, it’s going to affect your family. Start those good sleep habits now, and please read the first post in this series for more information.

Always,

Alexie

Sleep training can be scary and daunting. It's definitely not something I had planned for my family, but then I found an effective and family focused way to help my son learn to put himself to sleep and it has changed my life

 

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  • tineke - workingmommyabroad says:

    Great report on your experience…. Awesome to hear what an amazing change you have gone try, you must feel so well rested now!! Congrats! We also didnt want to do the cry it out method so usually we put him to bed and sit with him / sing to him until he is very dozy /drifts us… Some people around us think we´re crazy for doing that but i just want him to know that we´re there for him even if not in co-sleeping form. And it works for us, he usually falls asleep quite quickly and started sleeping through the night. (Although the last weeks were a bit terror again with 4 teeth coming through so yeah, there was a lot of wake-ups!) Usually we still do a bit of co-sleeping / cuddling in the big bed in the morning, so if he for example goes to bed at 7 / 7.30pm but wakes up 6ish (or 5 sometimes…zzzz!) we move him to our bed and try to catch another hour or so.

    • atflook@gmail.com says:

      That’s exactly how we do it as well! I sit with him until he falls asleep which takes minimal time now and then around 6:30 am he usually comes back in bed w us for a cuddle! Its amazinf and the best of both worlds in my opinion. X

  • This i will seriously look into. my son will go down pretty easy after dinner and bath, but usually gets up around midnight and then MUST sleep with me. It’s not worth the fight to keep putting him in his own bed

    • atflook@gmail.com says:

      We were having the same problems with Hudson and we felt the same way. Who knew sleeping could be so exhausting!

  • Emily says:

    Yay! This is so great!!!! So happy to hear. We have had to do sleep training a few times as I felt like he needed me more at other times and I would nurse or rock him to sleep. I still nurse him right before naps and bedtime, but he usually only falls asleep nursing before naps and not bedtime. I just leave and let him fall asleep on his own then. He sleeps the entire night or wakes once. It’s working for us so we haven’t sleep trained in awhile (he’s one now). I love how you had such a great experience with cradle coach!!!! xo

  • Renae says:

    This is great! I’ve been reading about sleep training ever since B was born and have followed a few key ideas- he’s 5 1/2 months now. So far, I’ve only gotten through the first stage of newborn to 4.5 months (do whatever is necessary to sleep) and for a few weeks I’ve been trying to break the nurse to sleep for naps (now about 50% he can use a pacifier and lay across me on a pillow) and also put him in his crib after only holding him to sleep roughly 10 min (I used to hold for 40 minutes! Yikes! That was survival mode!)
    I’m hoping to slowly wean off of nursing to sleep or rocking/holding at all! Baby steps.
    This is really good to look into though! Was it affordable?

    • atflook@gmail.com says:

      Hello!! They are so amazing to work with and create incredible sleep plans based on what you are comfortable with which was so important to me as I didn’t feel comfortable leaving him to cry it out. A few months on, hes still sleeping like a pro and finally, so are my husband and I. I think the earlier you start, the better as well! As far as pricing, it all depends on what service you choose. I think for what you are getting, it is totally worth it. They will literally skype with you or call you every night if you need it and if you’re local, they will come to your house and help. Very hands on. I actually recently started adding essential oils to our nighttime routine and have seen a MASSIVE difference in his willingness to sleep as well as helping him sleep longer. It might be something to try as well (i’m a bit obsessed). Shoot me an email ay hello@alwaysalexie.com and I can shoot you some additional info! I swear we have tried everything with him and we’ve mastered it now!

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