It has been said that all men are the same, but the differences between American men and British men has become quite apparent now that I’ve seen both sides of the fence. When complaining to friends about how talking to him is like talking to a wall sometimes, or expressing my continued annoyance of him throwing EVERY THING in the dirty hamper even when it’s not dirty, or my personal favourite, how obnoxious it is that he loses every thing, they always respond with, “well that’s a man for you.” While this may be true, and in some ways men are all the same, here are just a few major differences between American men and English men. I am qualified to write this article because I have experienced both!
- British Men Are In Touch With Their Feminine Side: I absolutely love this about my husband (and all British men from what I can see). They have a serious sense of style and they genuinely care about the way they look. When I ask my husband, “Do these shoes look ok with this outfit?” he will actually look at me, take a minute to think, and then decide. What’s not to love about that? On top of that, English men aren’t afraid to seriously hug their best friend and say, “I love you, man,” without being called “gay” or “lame” or have to follow it with “no homo.” I respect that. I love the bond my husband has with his best friends. I also love that he doesn’t wear socks with sandals. *cough* americans *cough*
- American Men Are More Affectionate: Holding hands in public, maternity photos, engagement photos, elaborate weddings, couples pictures every where, and even just expressing their feelings. I have dated my share of American guys and they have all been great about these things. They loved being in my selfies, they loved telling me how much I meant to them on a regular basis, they loved holding my hand and giving me a sweet kiss in public, they danced with me in the kitchen; I always felt secure in my relationships. Perhaps that’s why I always got so bored. That being said, I love my husband and I know that he loves me more than any of my American exes, but he just shows his love in different ways. Speaking to my women friends here, they seem to agree that British men are just not the best at expressing their emotions and British politeness means no PDA. This is definitely a hurtle Ads and I have had to cross and we have met half way (hence the six month photo shoot I convinced him to do)! He writes me sweet notes and does the dishes in the morning and brings me up cups of tea, it’s different, but it’s definitely love.
- British Men Are Not Afraid To Be Naked: If you are a British woman, you probably are nodding your head and laughing because you know exactly what i’m talking about. If you’re American, you probably have no idea what I’m talking about. This one is still a bit hard for me to wrap my head around because I grew up in American where it just isn’t normal. English men have no problem with, and seem to quite enjoy, getting naked…at any time really but mostly when they get drunk. How many times have I gotten photos of one of Adams friends bums on a night out? Too many. I could tell you who’s who just by looking at their ass. This would be so out of order in America…makes me laugh even thinking about it.
- American Men Have To Prove Their Manliness: I feel like American men always have something to prove. They have to be the smartest or manliest or sexiest or something. I do not miss being chatted up by American men in bars. It was like watching a horse and pony show. Although I don’t remember much about the night I met my husband, I do remember having a great time. He taught me a coin game and we laughed and we danced. He never made me feel uncomfortable or like he was trying to sleep with me. We just had a great time! I knew he was sexy and manly without him forcing it on me. respect.
- British Men Are More Laid Back: You will probably meet a British man on a night out or in a coffee shop or at a pub, and your first date will probably not be a fancy dinner for two, but it will be relaxed. British men will make you laugh, they will really netflix and chill with you, and you will always have a good time. While a fancy dinner would be nice once in awhile, I much prefer the casual nature of a British man. They make just chilling on the couch a good time, and of course we can’t forget their sense of humour. That’s why I married Adam. Man knows how to make me laugh.
- American Men Are Better At Communicating: Getting a British man to open up is about as easy as doing an ironman; It takes time and dedication and usually a lot of tears. The stereotype that English men have a stiff upper lip is a very accurate one. I think that’s just a cultural thing, but again, I have struggled with this because communication has always been important to me, especially since Adam and I had a long distance relationship for awhile and communication was all we had.
I adore my British man (obviously. I married him). I think that it’s easy to assume all men are the same, and in some ways they kind of are, but the cultural differences really do create such different men. I don’t think one is better than the other, I just let my heart decide, and it has always been him from day ONE! If you are thinking about dating a British man, just know that getting a kiss in public might be hard, he will never show much emotion, he will always make you laugh, grabbing a beer with him will always result in a night out, and his accent will NEVER get old. Ever. From my experience, British men have more fun. But that’s just my experience.
I think it’s about time I share how my relationship with him started…what do you think??